Alice – Fostering Blog
Today is Friday – well at least I think it is Friday. I’m struggling to know what day it is to be honest. It’s that funny time between Christmas and New year where everyday feels the same and no-one knows quite what day it is. It doesn’t help because Charlie has the week off too, so all routine has completely gone out of the window. Alice hates the lack of routine. We know her behaviour deteriorates during the school holidays and the routine has stopped. Whilst she needs the routine, we are in desperate need of the break from the routine. We need the long lazy starts to each day just to recharge the batteries.
There are parts of the routine that remain no matter what day it is though. Because Alice is disabled, there are a number of things that have to happen – no matter what. She has various medicines throughout the day, she has her catheter changed every three hours and suppository given to help her bowels move. These things remain whatever day of the week it is, whatever else is going on we always make sure these things take place at the right time – although I have to admit it is not always easy, there have been times when I have missed things – when I can’t quite remember the last time the catheter was changed or by whom.
We have had my great Aunty staying for a few days. It has been great to have someone around who knows us well. She is great because she shares the load, she helps around the house, cooking, clearing away and so on. But most of all she takes a turn with the discipline with the children. Just like a grandparent she steps in when she needs to, she picks up when we are at our wicks end, and knows just the right tone to take. Alice has not once wrapped her round her little finger. My Aunt was a foster carer when she was younger. She and her late husband fostered over twenty children in the 1960’s and 1970’s. She says things haven’t changed too much with the needs of foster children. It is so good to have her here – she just gets it. Not many people really do – so we make the most of her wisdom while she is here.
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