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Time to go home

They say all good things come to an end, which is a shame as we have had a really successful week camping, and I say that with relief because the boys can be tricky at times; sometimes the loss of routine can be difficult for them or just being out of their comfort zone.

We often try to go to the same smaller campsites as they have been to before because they are they are familiar, and we have established a good camping routine now as they are both well-travelled. This morning with precision planning we were up early and all doing our bit to put the tents away.

I felt a bit sorry for the neighbours though, as asking them to do the task quietly was an impossible request. Looking back on the week I can honestly say it was a joy to spend quality time.

Each day we voted on what we should do next; playing board games was fun, crazy golf and pool was a favourite. We were happy we actually all managed a 2 mile walk through the many scenic fields surrounding us, and then finally ending up at a lovely country pub where we had lunch and giant ice creams before heading back. They thought it great that they could stay up later as they were on holiday.

The pool area was great they had a giant slides so everyone enjoyed having a go on them. Its helps that we all have similar interests, and we also went to see some lovely old fashioned steam trains and had a visit to a very large exhibition of model railways which I think my husband and the boys enjoyed the most. 

For me a whole week of doing no cooking or washing up was great, as the boys took turns in helping to cook dinner every night with my partner and we had some great meals outdoors. The most enjoyable part was being together; no social workers, no meetings or training, no emails, phone calls, no school runs, no making packed lunches, or worrying about school uniforms. 

Having a break where it’s safe for the boys to be themselves and spend quality time, hearing them laugh, no pressure, just able to make new good memories together.

I think they are looking forward to their own beds and a couple of early nights. I’m looking forward to the Summer camping now, bring it on…

My thought are foster children who are going on holiday for the first time, a trip within the UK to the seaside or countryside is probably best to see how they get on, before considering getting permission to take them abroad.

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’Thinking about Fostering’

When you’re thinking about fostering, there is much to consider you obviously want to make a difference; you certainly don’t want to fail.

It’s important to do your research as they all sound great on paper! Think carefully about the impact fostering will have on your own family/ wider family as your family dynamic and relationships will change. Talk to your children first as fostering can have a positive, negative or mixed impact on them as they play a big role in fostering.

May is Foster Care Fortnight this is the Fostering Network’s annual campaign to raise the profile of fostering and to show how foster care transforms lives. There will be many fostering events on, find out more about what fostering entails and there are foster carers on hand, so you will be able to hear what they say about the support, training and how the company works in general. 

The role of a foster carer is to make that difference, but don’t expect too much at first, children can come with complex issues from neglect. You need to be prepared; they have been let down time and time again, and it takes time for them to build trust with you before they can begin the process of healing.

So how do you choose who to foster for- my advice is to check with Ofsted; read the inspection reports in your area, I would choose one local as it’s so important that you build relationships with other foster carers for support as the job is emotionally draining. Look at the rating and about the company, and I would especially look at how carers are supported.

When you have decided, check out the recruitment events with the local authority and the private sector, ask lots of questions, speak to foster carers, ask them what they think about the support, and if they feel valued and listened to.

Don’t go into it because you think you can make money out of it because you can’t and I would be very careful about anyone offering high amounts of money to care for a child; as my experience says  be careful they may need far more than a foster home can offer. Most important- depending on the type of fostering, you may need to be in a child’s life for many years not just till they are 18, as often you are their support network through adulthood.

There is plenty of information around on fostering but I would recommend you look at the fostering network or if you have further questions for impartial advice you can contact Foster Line.

My thoughts are I never really knew how hard fostering was going to be emotionally or how challenging it would be. To watch a child grow into a confident and successful adult, knowing you made that difference is the best feeling you can experience.

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Dan is 11 now and it’s been a year since he came to live here and despite making sure food is always available for him we are seeing many issues around food at home and in School.

Dan struggles with peers his own age, he gets very anxious and uses food for comfort.  There were issues when he lived at home because food wasn’t always available. Dan was hoarding food at first, I knew he felt less anxious by doing this, I guess he felt he might not get fed here; a survival mentality toward food, feeling there isn’t enough or it won’t be there the next time.

This has since stopped, however if food is around he will try anyway he can to get it, even if it means taking, persuading others, as he has done on several occasions. Last week school phoned as there have been issues in the dinner hall as Dan keeps going up for seconds and then if none is available taking students food.

I have tried everything but it doesn’t seem to make a difference whether he is on school dinner or pack lunches he just keeps on wanting more food. Complaints home that Dan keeps trying to help himself to drinks and biscuits from the cupboard in the form room at School.

When Dan comes home from school he has a snack and always a large healthy meal and not so healthy pudding. When he is given a meal he checks what everyone else has on their plate, eats quickly and scrapes the plate clean and gets every bit of food of his knife and fork.

When we go out to eat and drink it has to be the biggest not necessarily what he likes. Sometimes you can see his disappointment when food he has ordered doesn’t look as much as he thought it would, and in fast food places he always asks for the bigger meals.

We were away at the weekend; Dan asked if he could meet us at the bike ramp until we were ready to join him. About 10 minutes later we walked over to meet up with him but he wasn’t at the bike ramp. Dan was opposite sat at a table with a family we didn’t know, and he was playing on a DS that wasn’t his, and somehow he had managed to get them to buy him a drink and crisps!

My thoughts are eating disorders in foster children are almost always connected to control—either a child’s feeling of needing to control something ‘food’ when everything else feels out of control or a child’s feeling of the loss of control.

Food and routines and rituals that surround it – shopping, preparing, cooking and serving, cleaning up  are important parts of our lives, yet often we fail to recognise the symbolic or hidden meanings of these activities.

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